I’m going to miss…

By curiousillusion ( June 23, 2009 at 11:12 am) · Filed under personal, ,

As I’ve mentioned repeatedly, I’m sure, I’m getting ready to move in with my parents.   Long story about how I came about this decisions… sometimes, in fact, I’m not even sure why I’m moving, besides the financial reasons… but it’s too late now.  Lately I’ve been thinking a lot about the things I’ll miss about having and living in my own apartment.  I mean, this apartment has been mine and mine alone for over 2 years… it’s a lot to get used to.

Now, I know… I’m sure there are some benefits to living at home.  And I’ll touch on them, probably after I’ve experienced them.  But here are the things I’m going to miss about living alone:

  • Being able to stay in my pajamas until mid-afternoon.
  • Sleeping IN til mid-afternoon.  Okay, just kidding I don’t sleep in that late. But I have a feeling past 9am might not fly with the parents.
  • Being able to leave the house without telling anyone where I’m going.
  • Being able to come back into the house without having to tell anyone where I’ve been.
  • Not having to explain to anyone why I don’t feel like going out (yes, I can see this coming up).
  • My DVR.  My parents have one downstairs but my dad has already filled it up.   Although I might see about getting one for my room… is that possible?
  • Eating whenever I want.  Granted, this might be better for my getting healthy idea, but sometimes I’m just not in the mood for breakfast.  Sometimes I’m not hungry for lunch at noon.  Sometimes I like the most random things to eat.
  • My stuff.  Most everything that I’m not using is going into storage so I have to say goodbye  (temporarily, but still) to my my bed, my pretty dishes with the polka dots, my lovely red couch…
  • Space.  Right now I have a one bedroom apartment to enjoy… I’m about to end up with just a bedroom to call my own.  Yes, the whole house is accessible but for privacy, it’s just the bedroom.
  • My cat’s current personality.  She’s used to this apartment, she feels at home here and she rarely hides.  She has her usual spot on the couch, follows me around, curls up with me at night… I know it’ll take her some time to get used to my parent’s house but I’m worried that she’ll quit sleeping with me, quit spending time with me.
  • Peace and quiet.  My dad watches the TV with the volume turned way up, my mom talks on the phone loudly… and they both don’t seem to stay in one place.  My mom is up and down, in the kitchen, over to the couch, back to the kitchen, upstairs to her room….  my cat and I can sit on the couch quietly for quite some time without any problems.  She startles easily when she’s at my parent’s house because she’s not used to all the noise and movement.  Heck, even I startle easily when I’m there.

Sigh.

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  • I definitely recommend getting DVR for your own room. I have Tivo which you can set up to any tv with cable. That's a good way to go because if you move out you can take it with you too. That's what I would suggest.
  • I sooo want a Tivo. But the cost just hurts so much... $150 straight up. Sigh.
  • J
    Yeah, living with parents can be tough sometimes. The kids and I visited my mom last week and even that had some stressful moments! Good luck with the move!
  • Thank you!
  • Henry
    If it was easy to live with the folks, we'd all still be living at home.. I think it's nature's way of forcing us all to grow up and make our own way. Something I've noticed in your generation is the huge numbers of guys especially, who are perfectly content to live in their bedrooms well into their 20's, playing video games and sponging off the "magic refrigerator" (always full of goodies) and the "magic clothes closet" (always full of clean, pressed laundry).. The fact that you're no longer (too) comfortable there, makes me grin. It shows that you'll probably be okay - that you've got what it takes to find a way to make it in this tough old world. Just remember that it's just common decency to let someone know you're leaving. It's not "permission" - just manners. And use that bit of "grrr" moment to motivate you to get your own place where you and the cat can sleep all damn day if you want!
  • Good point Harry. Umm... well I don't know THAT many guys that do that, and I know that I could never do that. I like my independence too much, even if that means I'm always broke.

    And hey... I'm doing my own laundry here. I like putting things away so that I know where to find them!
  • Ill miss you if you don't come to new york! Please come?!
  • Let's go!
  • Odd One In
    I think one of the conditions of going back to the inside (hehe) is that you need to be recognised as an adult. After all, it seems you're older than 18 or 21, whatever you need to be over there. :)

    But seriously, for example:
    You should be able to stay in your PJs. It's your prerogative as long as it doesn't disturb other people or other people's visitors. It is your house too, after all.
    Sleeping in. It is a free country, isn't it?
    Leaving and coming back without having to explain it. Well, I think this one just comes down to decency. It makes sense to let your parents know where you are in the context that they might need to contact you or for emergencies. But not as a tracking mechanism.
    If you don't wanna go out, you should be able to express that in whatever situation.
    What are you doing with your DVR? Not taking it? If not, why not?
    The eating thing depends on how you arrange things. Are you gonna be preparing food on your own or are you gonna scrunge off your parents? :) Again, I think it comes down to decency, and it will probably take a little while for you guys to adjust to what you do. But, you should always have brekkie.
    I understand the space / privacy / stuff issue. Just gotta think of the overall goal. But hopefully they are things you can tweak so they suit you a bit better.
    The cat, well, as long as you remember that you are the master. Although I know that it's more difficult (and totally different) than with dogs.
    The noise, well. All parents have a quirk. :)

    Hopefully you'll be able to work through these things with your parents. You might be surprised. They might also been trying to figure out how they're gonna deal with their (almost) grown-up daughter! :)
  • Well we'll see. I do think it's okay to tell my parents where and when I'm going but I don't feel the need to explain every detail about it.
    My DVR was rented through my cable company, so I couldn't take it with me. My dad is supposed to rent me one when he gets back from his trip, although I was thinking about buying one (but that would be a lot of money).
    Ha, I prefer to scrounge off my parents - my mom cooks well.
    Nope, cat is the master. Always has been.
  • Nicolle
    Good luck Ari!
  • Thanks!
  • Carol
    Red couch! I *knew* there was somethin' I liked about you. :o)
  • I LOVE my red couch! All my life my parents have had neutral colored couches but I knew that when I got my own apartment and had to buy my own couch, for some reason I wanted RED!
  • I wish you luck, Ari! I moved back in with my parents right after I graduated college. I lasted 2 months. I was back out of their house just as soon as I found an apartment. I hope you have much better luck than I did!

    But I think I was also younger than you (I was 21... Not like I'm much older now... A while year) so my parents felt as if they still had to make sure I was on the straight and narrow so to speak.
    .-= Heather´s last blog ..Why Am I Not Good Enough... =-.
  • Thanks Heather! Wow 2 months? That was fast!

    That's true, although I think my parent's still have to check up on me a bit too much.
  • Mary
    Pretty cool post. I just found your site and wanted to say
    that I have really enjoyed reading your posts. Anyway
    I'll be subscribing to your blog and I hope you post again soon!
  • Thanks
  • It sounds like what I just got done going through, only at my in-laws. It was a nightmare. I hope it goes well for you...
    .-= Kelly Kroh´s last blog .. =-.
  • Wow, your in-laws? I can't even begin to imagine!
  • I don't think I could handle moving back in with my parents. I said when I moved out that I was never going back. Not that it was terribly unpleasant there, I was just SO ready to be on my own. And I love being on my own. :)
    Good luck with moving back home. I'm sure it will be nice to not be spending so much money on rent.
  • Yeah I said that when I graduate high school. I do love being on my own. Saving money on rent (and cable and electricity) is going to be a relief, that's for sure.
  • v
    i totally feel your pain. i've been there, and it looks like i will be there again shortly. after law school i moved in with my sister, who got engaged and married a few months later and ruined my life. then i moved back in with my parents for about a year while i was saving to buy a condo. bought the condo in may of 2008 and now it's for sale because i can barely afford it and want to leave the city. i'm goign to take a very substantial hit and will probably have to move back in with them. all i can tell you is that you'll survive, and you'll save money. it won't be as bad as you think, and of course, you and i are lucky enough to have parents who are willing to take us back in. silver lining and all - but damn it, yeah, you'll miss all those things. best of luck to you and look forward to reading your blogs about it!
  • Well if you end up living with your parents again then at least I know I'm not alone. And you're VERY right, we're lucky that we have parents that are willing to take us back in. So many people are less fortunate..
  • Living with the parents right now too :/ It's not all that bad, at least my mum cooks food :) I'm sure your cat will settle in after a while as well.
    .-= Lucy´s last blog ..Pics I didn't use =-.
  • Yup, my mom cooks food too. Although today she told me that I'm to cook tomorrow. Gulp.
  • I'm sure it'll be challenging at first but there will be good bits and when you move out again you'll write a list of things you'll miss about living with your parents!
    .-= Bluebelle´s last blog ..Not My Type =-.
  • That's true, there are good points. And ha, you think I'll do a post on things I'll miss about living with my parents? Guess time will tell..
  • Ever since I got my own apartment, I can't even live with my parents for longer than 1 month. Seriously, I've tested this theory and after 1 month, things always starts to go really downhill.
    I definitely sympathise with leaving the house/coming back whenever and eating whenever/whatever I want. These are things I can't compromise on, so I doubt I'll ever move back in with my parents. But even moving in with a close friend/boyfriend terrifies me for these reasons.
    .-= SassyGirl´s last blog ..Two types of girls =-.
  • Just 1 month? Yikes, we'll see how things go with me. I'm nervous now!
  • Terra
    Ah yes! I remember when I had to move back in with my folks after being on my own. I was 21 and they set my curfew at 10pm. Yep, I'm serious. I had chores to do and everything. It was like I was 14 again. Nevermind I had a full time job AND was in college full time. They insisted my chores came before my homework.

    Needless to say, it didn't last. I was out of there within 5 months.

    Good luck!!! I hope your parents are more understanding than mine!
  • They set your curfew? Ouch. And yeah, I don't have "chores" but I do have to empty the dishwasher (right when my mom says) and I think my mom expects me to cook. Not sure how since I don't really...

    5 months? I have a feeling I might not last that long!
  • I moved back in with my parents when I graduated college (I was 21 too) and I felt like I was 14 again too. I think parents immediately revert back to "You're a little girl" mode!
    .-= Heather´s last blog ..Why Am I Not Good Enough... =-.
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