Comments on: On being the third wheel… http://curiousillusion.com/2009/07/05/on-being-the-third-wheel/ "All that we see or seem is but a dream within a dream." Thu, 29 Jul 2010 08:08:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: bawden http://curiousillusion.com/2009/07/05/on-being-the-third-wheel/comment-page-1/#comment-3539 bawden Wed, 30 Dec 2009 06:53:12 +0000 http://curiousillusion.com/?p=624#comment-3539 can i ask for some help... I'm in a relationship, yet i'm the third wheel. My boyfriend and I are great when we are alone or with other friends, but when we are with our best friend, who is a male and gay, i become invisible and he shares all our personal and interment details with his friend... I don't know what to do, we are getting married but i feel like i'm married to him and his best his best friend. What do I do??? :-( can i ask for some help… I'm in a relationship, yet i'm the third wheel. My boyfriend and I are great when we are alone or with other friends, but when we are with our best friend, who is a male and gay, i become invisible and he shares all our personal and interment details with his friend… I don't know what to do, we are getting married but i feel like i'm married to him and his best his best friend. What do I do??? :-(

]]> By: Katie http://curiousillusion.com/2009/07/05/on-being-the-third-wheel/comment-page-1/#comment-1051 Katie Tue, 07 Jul 2009 16:45:51 +0000 http://curiousillusion.com/?p=624#comment-1051 Can we hang out? Seriously. I have two. Count them. T W O friends who are single, and the rest are all involved. And not just involved, but involved to a point where all I hear about is their relationship. Am I content being single? YES. Do I want to go out and have an awesome time with my friends? YES. Do I want to hear every waking problem you're having in your relationship right now? NO LEAVE ME ALONE! Usually after I'm pretty intoxicated, I'll let anyone talk about anything. It's to the point where I don't even care about it when I'm drunk. It's bad. .-= Katie´s last blog ..<a href="http://dotcomkatie.blogspot.com/2009/07/mexican-food-no-more-foreplay.html" rel="nofollow">Mexican Food = No More Foreplay</a> =-. Can we hang out? Seriously.

I have two. Count them. T W O friends who are single, and the rest are all involved. And not just involved, but involved to a point where all I hear about is their relationship.

Am I content being single? YES. Do I want to go out and have an awesome time with my friends? YES. Do I want to hear every waking problem you’re having in your relationship right now? NO LEAVE ME ALONE!

Usually after I’m pretty intoxicated, I’ll let anyone talk about anything. It’s to the point where I don’t even care about it when I’m drunk. It’s bad.
Katie´s last blog ..Mexican Food = No More Foreplay My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: curiousillusion http://curiousillusion.com/2009/07/05/on-being-the-third-wheel/comment-page-1/#comment-1036 curiousillusion Tue, 07 Jul 2009 05:00:00 +0000 http://curiousillusion.com/?p=624#comment-1036 Firstly.. not a new relationship. I think the honeymoon period is over. You'd think so anyway. But yeah you're right. Lol I have yet to find a guy that likes to go shopping. Scratch that... I once ran into the boyfriend of a guy I worked with and he and I had a blast sniffing scents in Bath & Body Works. I've always wanted a gay best friend... Firstly.. not a new relationship. I think the honeymoon period is over. You’d think so anyway. But yeah you’re right.

Lol I have yet to find a guy that likes to go shopping. Scratch that… I once ran into the boyfriend of a guy I worked with and he and I had a blast sniffing scents in Bath & Body Works. I’ve always wanted a gay best friend…

]]> By: curiousillusion http://curiousillusion.com/2009/07/05/on-being-the-third-wheel/comment-page-1/#comment-1035 curiousillusion Tue, 07 Jul 2009 04:58:25 +0000 http://curiousillusion.com/?p=624#comment-1035 Sorry to hear you don't have any friends in Vegas... I don't know many people in Houston if that makes you feel better. How's being single treating you? You feeling any better about it? Sorry to hear you don’t have any friends in Vegas… I don’t know many people in Houston if that makes you feel better.

How’s being single treating you? You feeling any better about it?

]]> By: curiousillusion http://curiousillusion.com/2009/07/05/on-being-the-third-wheel/comment-page-1/#comment-1034 curiousillusion Tue, 07 Jul 2009 04:56:53 +0000 http://curiousillusion.com/?p=624#comment-1034 Yeah I can't understand it either. I mean, after a while I sort of get tired of spending time after time with the same person, lol! Yeah I can’t understand it either. I mean, after a while I sort of get tired of spending time after time with the same person, lol!

]]> By: Bluebelle http://curiousillusion.com/2009/07/05/on-being-the-third-wheel/comment-page-1/#comment-1021 Bluebelle Mon, 06 Jul 2009 17:57:05 +0000 http://curiousillusion.com/?p=624#comment-1021 My husband and I share a lot of friends so if it's a mixed group we'll usually both go along. But we have girl's and boy's nights/outings separately - I don't want to spend the night playing video games and he doesn't want to go shopping. It's important for you to have time apart in a relationship. That said, maybe your friend doesn't realise you want some girls only time - especially if its a new relationship she might just be so swept up in the not-wanting-to-be-apart feelings. Maybe try talking to her about it? .-= Bluebelle´s last blog ..<a href="http://leavesinthespring.blogspot.com/2009/07/photo-post.html" rel="nofollow">Photo Post</a> =-. My husband and I share a lot of friends so if it’s a mixed group we’ll usually both go along. But we have girl’s and boy’s nights/outings separately – I don’t want to spend the night playing video games and he doesn’t want to go shopping. It’s important for you to have time apart in a relationship. That said, maybe your friend doesn’t realise you want some girls only time – especially if its a new relationship she might just be so swept up in the not-wanting-to-be-apart feelings. Maybe try talking to her about it?
Bluebelle´s last blog ..Photo Post My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: brianna http://curiousillusion.com/2009/07/05/on-being-the-third-wheel/comment-page-1/#comment-1020 brianna Mon, 06 Jul 2009 15:18:15 +0000 http://curiousillusion.com/?p=624#comment-1020 All but one of my friends is married. I have been a third wheel my entire grown-up life, except for six months. Now, not only am I single, but I don't have any friends here in Vegas. So be grateful for having to be a third wheel, because it means you have someone to hang out with. All but one of my friends is married. I have been a third wheel my entire grown-up life, except for six months. Now, not only am I single, but I don’t have any friends here in Vegas. So be grateful for having to be a third wheel, because it means you have someone to hang out with.

]]> By: Jill Pilgrim http://curiousillusion.com/2009/07/05/on-being-the-third-wheel/comment-page-1/#comment-1019 Jill Pilgrim Mon, 06 Jul 2009 12:47:14 +0000 http://curiousillusion.com/?p=624#comment-1019 I totally agree with you. I'm married, but I think its really important to spend some time apart and to have seperate social outlets. I adore my husband, but there are times when I just want to see my girlfriends. I have no doubt that my husband adores me, but there are times that he just wants to hang out with his buddies. I've never understood people who can't/won't socialize without their significant other. .-= Jill Pilgrim´s last blog ..<a href="http://pilgrimcongress.com/?p=217" rel="nofollow">Lobsterfest ‘09, otherwise known as, Independence Day</a> =-. I totally agree with you. I’m married, but I think its really important to spend some time apart and to have seperate social outlets. I adore my husband, but there are times when I just want to see my girlfriends. I have no doubt that my husband adores me, but there are times that he just wants to hang out with his buddies. I’ve never understood people who can’t/won’t socialize without their significant other.
Jill Pilgrim´s last blog ..Lobsterfest ‘09, otherwise known as, Independence Day My ComLuv Profile

]]> By: curiousillusion http://curiousillusion.com/2009/07/05/on-being-the-third-wheel/comment-page-1/#comment-1018 curiousillusion Mon, 06 Jul 2009 04:59:42 +0000 http://curiousillusion.com/?p=624#comment-1018 Yeah you're right, I might try that. I think part of the problem is that I don't tend to hang out with groups of girls anymore so it's not an "obvious" girls night out or something. It's just me and a girl friend and I'm hoping that's all it'll be... and then the boyfriend appears. And you know what I have to say to that... rawr. Yeah you’re right, I might try that. I think part of the problem is that I don’t tend to hang out with groups of girls anymore so it’s not an “obvious” girls night out or something. It’s just me and a girl friend and I’m hoping that’s all it’ll be… and then the boyfriend appears. And you know what I have to say to that… rawr.

]]> By: curiousillusion http://curiousillusion.com/2009/07/05/on-being-the-third-wheel/comment-page-1/#comment-1017 curiousillusion Mon, 06 Jul 2009 04:58:17 +0000 http://curiousillusion.com/?p=624#comment-1017 Yes! You described the exact 4 scenarios there are perfectly. And 3 out of 4 of them totally suck. Glad that I could get a guy's opinion, and one that agrees with me! I think you're right too, it boils down to trust, in the end... a couple should trust each other enough to be able to go out without each other. Yes! You described the exact 4 scenarios there are perfectly. And 3 out of 4 of them totally suck.

Glad that I could get a guy’s opinion, and one that agrees with me! I think you’re right too, it boils down to trust, in the end… a couple should trust each other enough to be able to go out without each other.

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