Single and the bar scene… maybe.
So I have this dilemma in my head and I figured I’d take it to the blog and let you guys sort it out for me… as a warning, I tend to go on and on when I write. Sorry.
A few weekends ago I was supposed to have plans to go out and get drinks with my co-worker. I was really looking forward to it, as it had been absolutely ages since I’d gone out for drinks with a friend. For a while it started to look like she wasn’t going to be able to make it and there I was, all dressed up with nowhere to go. I started to consider going out by myself… and then it all worked out and we went out.
Anyway, when I was debating going out alone, I asked twitter. An overwhelming amount of people were basically, yes, do it! but a few people were very hesitant about me going out alone, one going so much as saying, nothing good will come of this. Scary words, indeed.
Last week, the very awesome @jamieallison came down and we went to get drinks at a place near my house, which was the bar that I had intended on going to by myself, if it had come to that. I had never been but always wanted to go, and it turns out to be a very nice bar – kind of posh and swanky, and not crowded at all. One of her first thoughts was “oh I would totally come here by myself” and I kind of agreed – I didn’t feel unsafe, it seemed very nice and considering it was only a hop, skip and a jump from my house – very convenient.
However… the bar tended to have an older crowd, well… older than me. The people there were more mostly mid- to late 30-40 years old and while there were a few guys our age (and yes a few were cute and no, sadly, they didn’t hit on us), for the most part it seemed a bit “old” for us. And knowing my luck, the guys that WOULD hit on me, would be the ones that were out of my age range.
The other thing is, I don’t know how comfortable I’d be going to a bar alone (and it goes beyond the “I don’t feel safe anywhere in Houston alone” issue I have). Being single for over a year now (sob), I’ve gotten comfortable at doing a lot of things on my own – going to movies, shopping, even eating out… but the bar life isn’t something I’ve attempted. I’m big on people watching and I think I wouldn’t mind grabbing a drink or two at the bar while watching what everyone was up to, but eventually I think I’d feel silly being all alone. Like people must be thinking “oh that pathetic girl”.
My brother, actually, was encouraging me to go out to a bar by myself, when I was complaining about sitting at home alone all the time. He said I should bring a book with me, preferably a semi-popular one, because (in his words), “if I see a girl reading a book in a bar, that tells me that she wants to be in the bar for a drink, but the fact that she brings a book tell me she doesn’t go often. And a book is a good starting off point for a conversation.” I kind of think he has a point.
Anyway, for the near future the point is moot – my birthday is Friday and I actually have plans for this weekend, which actually makes the third weekend in a row I’ve had stuff to do – exciting! But, I am thinking about what will happen after that, when the fun dies down and I start going stir crazy for social interaction.
So, to sum it up… good idea or bad idea for a single girl to go out and get a drink on her own? Take into consideration the following factors: bar is nearby, girl doesn’t drink that much (aka there’s no concern for having had too much to drink to drive herself home), bar is nice and safe-feeling and girl is starting to get tired of spending weekends home alone. Thoughts?
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